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Online dating: 3 steps to a good profile

Online dating: 3 steps to a good profile

So, you think you're ready to journey into the wilds of online dating? You've passed my initial checklist. Now what? I'm so glad you asked...again.

While my advice is derived from a few years of heartache and pain, it should always be ingested with a grain of salt.

1) Photo: Post a freaking photo! Pardon the 80s reference, but you don't have to look like Fabio or Cindy Crawford to get a date. Have you watched an episode of My Strange Addiction or Hoarders? How many of those freaks are single? Very few...which always makes me feel so happy about my singledom, but that's neither here nor there.

My point is take a photo. Don't wear sunglasses. Don't wear a hat. Don't make a duck face. Don't grip your chin thoughtfully. Smile. Take it outside...the light is more flattering, but don't take it in your car.

Drink your desert

Drink your desert

I love wine and beer because you don't have to mix them with something in order to make them drinkable.

Sure, we all get to the age where we can just drink hard liquor neat (or straight), but I'm not quite there yet. I can't just have a glass of gin. It sounds like fun, but I don't want to get that shivery gagging feeling every time I have some alcohol.

The other day, I went to deVeres with my parents for dinner. When we finished our fabulous meal, my mom suggested we get desert. Looking at the menu, nothing really struck my fancy, until I saw an old familiar name, Baileys.

Passing on the mousse and other sweets, we ordered two glasses of the irish cream on the rocks. It was kind of like an adult glass of milk...but smaller and with ice. I loved it so much, I found myself sucking on the ice cubes. Manners be damned!

While I'm not really a big fan of sweet drinks anymore, this one hit the spot after dinner.

Love is hell...kinda like war

Love is hell...kinda like war

Duped. I'm pretty sure I'm in the process of being duped.

First we have the Football Player. I've been texting with him for almost 3 weeks now. Every time I bring up the subject of meeting in person, he skirts the issue. I have two theories. (Rule #1) First, he has a girlfriend/wife and is a scumbag only looking for attention from a gal that he's not getting at home.

Second, he's actually a horde of frat boys involved in an elaborate initiation prank to string along ugly chicks until they get dumped by them. I'll admit that's just my imagination (and probably hormones) running rampant & highly unlikely.

The text messages have been decreasing in frequency lately, so odds are my first theory is probably correct.

Then we have the Short Guy.

4 steps to online dating preparedness

4 steps to online dating preparedness

I think some people in Sacramento jump into the online dating scene before they are ready. But, how can you be sure you are qualified to enter the online dating jungle? I'm so glad you asked. In order to save me (as well as a few other daters) time and heartache I present to you this simple checklist. If any of the following statements apply to you, I beg of you, DO NOT SIGN UP for a dating site.

1) You are not, in fact, single. I can't even believe I have to even mention this, but some people seem to be fuzzy on the whole "what is single" definition. If you feel the need to hide your photo or otherwise worry that a certain someone might find your profile, you are not single. Grow up and end it with them first. Then join the millions of us who are seeking companionship and stop wasting our collective time!

2) You don't have time to meet in person. Seriously, this is another obvious situation.

Disclaimers, disclaimers, everywhere disclaimers.

Disclaimers, disclaimers, everywhere disclaimers.

Lately, I've noticed a few guys putting disclaimers on their online dating profiles. I'm still not sure that this is a good idea.

Although, I might include one that says, if you are not in fact, single in the legal sense of the word, keep moving along. Get back to me when you have filed your papers with the judge that declares you freedom to date me.

The problem with disclaimers is that they can come across negatively and we all know how guys just dig chicks with a long list of stuff they won't put up with...

Seriously, I can understand emphasizing the fact that you don't or do want kids. That can be a deal breaker for some people and it's better to be up front about it in the beginning of the relationship than find yourself two years in facing a marriage and the possibility that you really will have to pop out a few kids to keep that guy happy.

What I find odd are they guys who state what should be a given.

News10's Contributor of the Month: Mark Mazzaferro

News10's Contributor of the Month: Mark Mazzaferro

The self-proclaimed nut of Vacaville has a big job. Vacaville’s Public Information Officer Mark Mazzaferro manages the city’s website, Twitter account, Facebook page, creates YouTube videos, sends out press releases, manages the government TV station, overlooks Vacaville’s emergency radio and a lot more.

Mazzaferro has been with the city of Vacaville for five years, but has worked as a PIO for 12.

Friday Night at the Winery

Friday Night at the Winery

Remember when Friday night meant it was pizza night?  Now, there is a great place to enjoy a Friday pizza night as an adult...with an adult beverage or two and some gourmet wood fired pizzas.

Don't tell anyone about this because I don't want it to get too popular, but Charles B. Mitchell winery in Fairplay, CA hosts an all you can eat wood fired pizza night. When the weather is balmy, the pizza is served right under the oak trees just outside the winery itself. When the weather is a bit chilly, they set up tables inside the warehouse where the barrels & stills are...do they use stills in wine making? Whatever they are called, they are these big shiny metal contraptions that make wine.

What's really great is that you can do a little wine tasting before dinner. Just sashay up to the counter and pick out the bottle you'd like to buy with your food. The tasting room closes to non-pizza eaters at 5:00 PM.