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I've never been married...and that's...OK

I've never been married...and that's...OK

All of you divorced people are probably going to disagree with me, but you know that old saying about it being better to have love and lost?  Well, apparently it's correct.

A few weeks ago, I was in an online discussion with @GirlWithMoxie about this situation. My point of view is that society pressures women and men to be married by a certain age. If you saw that a gal was almost 40 and had never been married, you would think one of two things, "She's gay" or "Ew. What's wrong with her?" It used to be 30 for women, but I think maybe society is getting a clue that some of us just haven't been lucky enough to find a guy to stick around long enough to ask us for our hand in marriage.

Moxie couldn't understand where I was coming from.

Our state fair is a great state fair...

Our state fair is a great state fair...

In two days, the California State Fair begins.  Am I the only one who starts hearing that song Teen Suicide, Don't Do It! whenever the website (BigFun.org) is mentioned? Seriously, did no one in the planning meeting raise their hand and say...oh by the way...There's this movie from the late 80s you might want to watch first.

Speaking of references...

Do you see the big golden bear clutching the purplish star? His/her name is Poppy. A guy I dated thought the bear on the California State flag was also named Poppy. Try as I might to gently convince him that he was wrong, he insisted on it. Fine. Yes, in 1846 John Fremont and his band of merry pioneers invaded Sonoma which was later known the Bear Flag Revolt with Poppy happliy sitting on their California Republic flag.

A musical interlude for Sacramento

A musical interlude for Sacramento

Remember this from high school?

One afternoon, I was wandering through the parking lot at work when I could hear this strange music. Thinking nothing of it, I proceeded on my errand. When I came back 10 minutes later, I could still hear the same music.

At first I thought it was someone sitting in their car, but alas it was this balloon. Someone decorated a car like we used to back in high school for birthdays or because we were bored, but they attached one of those highly annoying singing balloons. The same refrain from a random High School Musical song was on infinite repeat because the wind kept pushing the "I Sing!" button. 

Speaking of music...

A friend of mine went to the Tesla show last night. I didn't go because I'm a fool and forgot to buy tickets in time. Fate decided to add insult to injury because she and her fiance got an all access backstage pass.

That could have been me!!

Online dating chronicles: the search change up episode

Online dating chronicles: the search change up episode

Falling into a rut is easy when you are roaming the wilds of online dating. Burnout occurs fast.

Tired of scrolling past the same 100 guys every night, I thought I'd see what the Reverse Match had to offer. Unfortunately, the first 10 guys in my results made me want to throw in the towel on dating altogether. Because I don't have the right kind of daddy issues, men who are over 55 don't appeal to me.

With a heavy sigh, I clicked through to the next page. One of the risks of using the Reverse Match is that you only get the people looking for you. You can't screen out the ones with whom you might not want to get entangled...like the Currently Separated. Luckily, I tend to check that out like I look for a ring on a guy's left hand. Back to my search results, I scrolled past men who hadn't been online in weeks, when I clicked on a guy who looked interesting. His profile was short, but he had more than 1 photo and it looked like he played football in college.

FAQ about women - The shoe obsession

FAQ about women - The shoe obsession

Entry #1167

Why are women obsessed with shoes?  

I noticed a tweet from @SingleCityGuy pondering the above mystery.  Let me enlighten you.  First of all, let's be fair.  Not all women are obsessed with shoes...just like not all guys are obsessed with sports.  Hello, Birkenstocks, anyone?  

The answer is that shoes can alter a woman's mood, so we get addicted.  A pair of shoes can make her feel sexy or cranky.  How many times have I complimented a gal on her shoes?

Baby, you can drive my car.

Baby, you can drive my car.

You know what? I'm sick and tired of driving. I've been driving for 21 years. Not all at once, like Forrest Gump...it's been 21 years since I took that rite of passage at the DMV.  AAA reminded me of it today when I renewed my membership.

All I want is someone else to drive me around.  I know that seems odd for a control freak to say, but I'm just done.

Now, I do enjoy a road trip and yes, sometimes it's fun to zip around in my Beetle, and who doesn't enjoy the freedom to come and go as one pleases, but mostly, I'd rather let someone else have the responsibility.  If a guy I'm dating doesn't have a license, that's a deal breaker.  I need a driver. Luckily, I haven't found many guys who have multiple DUIs.

Sacramento's Gem: The American River Bike Trail

Sacramento's Gem:  The American River Bike Trail

Just when you think you are disappointed with what Sacramento has to offer, think again.. The American River Bike Trail has everything to give us a life worth treasuring. From biking to hiking,  boating to wildlife viewing, family picnic to solitary meditation, you have it all.

ARBT is aptly described in one of Bob Dylan's poems, that goes:

"There's beauty in the silver, singin' river,
There's beauty in the rainbow in the sky,
But no one and nothing else can touch the beauty"