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Love is hell...kinda like war

Love is hell...kinda like war

Duped. I'm pretty sure I'm in the process of being duped.

First we have the Football Player. I've been texting with him for almost 3 weeks now. Every time I bring up the subject of meeting in person, he skirts the issue. I have two theories. (Rule #1) First, he has a girlfriend/wife and is a scumbag only looking for attention from a gal that he's not getting at home.

Second, he's actually a horde of frat boys involved in an elaborate initiation prank to string along ugly chicks until they get dumped by them. I'll admit that's just my imagination (and probably hormones) running rampant & highly unlikely.

The text messages have been decreasing in frequency lately, so odds are my first theory is probably correct.

Then we have the Short Guy.

4 steps to online dating preparedness

4 steps to online dating preparedness

I think some people in Sacramento jump into the online dating scene before they are ready. But, how can you be sure you are qualified to enter the online dating jungle? I'm so glad you asked. In order to save me (as well as a few other daters) time and heartache I present to you this simple checklist. If any of the following statements apply to you, I beg of you, DO NOT SIGN UP for a dating site.

1) You are not, in fact, single. I can't even believe I have to even mention this, but some people seem to be fuzzy on the whole "what is single" definition. If you feel the need to hide your photo or otherwise worry that a certain someone might find your profile, you are not single. Grow up and end it with them first. Then join the millions of us who are seeking companionship and stop wasting our collective time!

2) You don't have time to meet in person. Seriously, this is another obvious situation.

Disclaimers, disclaimers, everywhere disclaimers.

Disclaimers, disclaimers, everywhere disclaimers.

Lately, I've noticed a few guys putting disclaimers on their online dating profiles. I'm still not sure that this is a good idea.

Although, I might include one that says, if you are not in fact, single in the legal sense of the word, keep moving along. Get back to me when you have filed your papers with the judge that declares you freedom to date me.

The problem with disclaimers is that they can come across negatively and we all know how guys just dig chicks with a long list of stuff they won't put up with...

Seriously, I can understand emphasizing the fact that you don't or do want kids. That can be a deal breaker for some people and it's better to be up front about it in the beginning of the relationship than find yourself two years in facing a marriage and the possibility that you really will have to pop out a few kids to keep that guy happy.

What I find odd are they guys who state what should be a given.

News10's Contributor of the Month: Mark Mazzaferro

News10's Contributor of the Month: Mark Mazzaferro

The self-proclaimed nut of Vacaville has a big job. Vacaville’s Public Information Officer Mark Mazzaferro manages the city’s website, Twitter account, Facebook page, creates YouTube videos, sends out press releases, manages the government TV station, overlooks Vacaville’s emergency radio and a lot more.

Mazzaferro has been with the city of Vacaville for five years, but has worked as a PIO for 12.

I've never been married...and that's...OK

I've never been married...and that's...OK

All of you divorced people are probably going to disagree with me, but you know that old saying about it being better to have love and lost?  Well, apparently it's correct.

A few weeks ago, I was in an online discussion with @GirlWithMoxie about this situation. My point of view is that society pressures women and men to be married by a certain age. If you saw that a gal was almost 40 and had never been married, you would think one of two things, "She's gay" or "Ew. What's wrong with her?" It used to be 30 for women, but I think maybe society is getting a clue that some of us just haven't been lucky enough to find a guy to stick around long enough to ask us for our hand in marriage.

Moxie couldn't understand where I was coming from.

World Team Tennis comes to Sacramento!

World Team Tennis comes to Sacramento with the meeting of the Sacramento Capitals and the Washington Kastles.  They will meet in a series of matches between Eastern and Western Conference Championship powerhouses that feature Serena Williams in singles and doubles competition at Capitals Stadium, Sunrise Mall.

Baby, you can drive my car.

Baby, you can drive my car.

You know what? I'm sick and tired of driving. I've been driving for 21 years. Not all at once, like Forrest Gump...it's been 21 years since I took that rite of passage at the DMV.  AAA reminded me of it today when I renewed my membership.

All I want is someone else to drive me around.  I know that seems odd for a control freak to say, but I'm just done.

Now, I do enjoy a road trip and yes, sometimes it's fun to zip around in my Beetle, and who doesn't enjoy the freedom to come and go as one pleases, but mostly, I'd rather let someone else have the responsibility.  If a guy I'm dating doesn't have a license, that's a deal breaker.  I need a driver. Luckily, I haven't found many guys who have multiple DUIs.